Temptation

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When thinking about temptation, my first thoughts go to chocolate. That is a nice safe topic. Not today. Today my temptation is not so innocent. It is about a behavior that I find unattractive in others, and yet, I want to engage in it right now. I’m not proud. If anything, let this encourage all of us to be kind when we speak about other people.

One of my pet peeves is gossip. Gossip is defined by Timothy Hallett, associate professor in the Indiana University sociology department…as “the unsanctioned evaluative talk about people who aren’t present.” (NY Times, 06/16/2012) In other words, it is me judging another person, and then going behind their back to tell others what I think about them.

Is there such a thing as good gossip and bad gossip? Gossip can help people to bond because it is a social activity. Good, right? Gossip can protect others from “being exploited by passing on information about bad behavior to warn others.” That is a benefit to the gossipers, so good, right? But, is that fair to the object of gossip? If someone’s reputation is hurt, that’s bad, right? I bite my tongue. I try to ascribe to the old saying – If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

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I was tempted to gossip about someone. I gave into that temptation and wrote about it here in this post. Then I erased it. This revised version is missing some content and that feels much better. 

The photos are watermarked and cropped small because it is my daughter and a friend enjoying friendship – not gossip. I try to protect personal images as much as possible. Please don’t copy them.

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Sacred

At the risk of being cliche, today’s prompt made me think: Life is sacred.

Yesterday, I attended funeral services for a young woman, who took her own life at the mere age of twenty-seven-years-old. Her pain must have felt great. Her pain has ended. Pain, in the form of grief, has come to rest on her family and friends. The anguish her parents and young husband were feeling was palpable, sorrow invading their very being to its core. The feeling so pervasive that it crowds everything else out, until it alone survives. And yet, they shared stories about her life with humor and hope for the rest of us.

This is not the first time suicide has touched my life. The first time was in high school, when a very close friend chose to end his life. Since then, there have been others. And I don’t know why, but this is the third person I have known that died by their own hand this year. Two of them were mothers in their mid-forties. Thankfully, I have only been affected on the fringes, meaning no one in my immediate family has found this as the answer to suffering.

It isn’t my intention to judge anyone who feels suicidal or has attempted suicide, or discuss it at length. I don’t really understand it. My only purpose here is to encourage anyone who is contemplating suicide to pause and find help, or if you know someone who might need help, intervene before it is too late.

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

The Daily Post Daily Prompt: Sacred

Anticipation

“People don’t realize that now is all there is; there is no past or future except as memory or anticipation in your mind.” – Eckhart Tolle

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The Daily Post Daily Prompt: Anticipation